It’s easy to assume that since you’re not always sharing your thoughts it won’t affect you too much. But, I think all of your ideas are a part of who you are, both good and bad.
This past summer I went to a FEE (Foundation for Economic Education) seminar here in California. During one of the lectures, the speaker (and one of my mentors) T.K. Coleman challenged everyone to write out their “superpower”. The lecture was based around entrepreneurial thinking, so his challenge was a way for us to discover our niche.
As I was sitting next to my friends in the lecture, we agreed it would be an interesting topic to discuss altogether rather than write out our guesses. We thought it’d be interesting to hear one another’s opinions, plus, self-examination is a little biased sometimes.
During that lunch break, we shared what we thought each others natural skills were. Of course, I think my friends are pretty cool and most of them I’d known for a few years - it was easy for me to point out their skills. But, they all had the same description of me which I found both shocking and intriguing.
Each of them said I’m quiet, but when I speak I have meaningful thoughts and therefore creates a big impact in the conversation.
I knew I was quiet, I know I have strong opinions, but I didn’t know that’s what people thought of me. It never clicked that some people would view me that way since I didn’t think anything special of it.
Moral of the story: who you are on the inside will show on the outside - even if you don’t realize it. Your thoughts have a bigger impact on your life, your image, and your reputation than you realize.