If we live in our minds, then the mind is like a home and we should be careful who and what we let inside. We should lock up at night, tend to it's cleanliness, and find comfort within.
A trespasser is unwelcome in your home. If someone were to break into your home with the intention to steal, ruin, or injure, would it be "rude" of you to force them out? Of course not! So why would it be different with your mind? If someone disrespects you and harms you for something in return, why would it be "rude" to distance yourself? They should have knocked and asked to come in first.
Suppose they are already a friend. There are still expectations to have set. Would you allow a friend to break everything in your home? Of course not. They may have more privileges in your home than others (etc. eat your food whenever they like, watch TV when they feel like it), but a good friend should never cause you harm. A good friend, will help you clean up without you having to ask.
These are the rooms I spend the majority of my time in:
Dirt and Dust
Sometimes dirt and dust from the outside world are blown into our homes. It always starts with small amounts, but if we avoided it, our homes would be filled with it. It's impossible to keep our homes completely free of dirt and dust, of course, but at some point we will start to negatively react to it. You'll see everything in your home start to get a little dusty. You might start sneezing, get itchy, or have teary eyes.
Cobwebs are tricky because unlike other messes in your home, you don't create them. They don't come about as a result of your actions, and they show up in the darker corners of the home. Much like the lies that form in the shadows of our minds - they must be knocked down.
Homes & Reality
If you think about it, even in reality, we use different rooms of our physical homes to accommodate what is happening in our thoughts.
"I'm tired, and need to relax". We retreat to our bedrooms or living room couches.
"I'm hurt, sad, and feeling anxious right now." We retreat to a smaller, dark space of the house.
"I have a lot of work to get done, and I need to focus right now." We retreat to the section of the house (be it the library, den, office, etc.) that is designed specifically to help us get into the right mind space for work.
And so forth.
When people are shopping for a home, they'll typically have a checklist of certain qualities they're looking for. And usually, the qualities that they look for align with certain qualities of their mind or personality.
There is an interesting correlation here. Perhaps, worth really thinking deeply about.
What is your dream home like? Is it an isolated, cozy, intricately designed cabin? Surrounded by beautiful nature? You might be someone who values simplicity in life. You're inspired by beauty, to the point where it's a priority to you. Being alone isn't scary for you, rather, being isolated and surrounded by nature gives you a sense of adventure. Maybe these things are important for you.
Maybe your dream home has a really big kitchen. If that's the case, I'm assuming you love to cook! And, you probably love having people over. Maybe, entertaining your friends and loved ones is important to you. Giving comfort to others that you love just might be the "highlight" of your "home".
Let's put this into practice, shall we? Next, I will describe my dream home and include some pictures as inspiration. You try to interpret what the qualities mean.
Size: My dream home is something between an apartment and a loft - not excessively big, but enough to have 4 - 5 people live in and have other people over (comfortably).
Location: Denver, CO. A lot is going on in this city, and it's about an hour away from some of the most beautiful nature I've ever seen.
Necessary Rooms: A study/library, efficiently sized kitchen but nothing crazy, a living room, however many necessary beds and baths.
My Study/Library: One wall is covered in chalkboard paint and has a window. One wall is filled top to bottom with books. One wall is a unique, bold color, covered in beautiful artwork pictures of things I love, one wall (with the door) has shelves for storage. A few things I definitely want in this room: an organized desk, hanging plants, a mini-fridge, and a round chair.
So what do you think? Do you feel like you have a better grasp for the way my mind works? What I value?
Here's my interpretation:
You might be able to go even deeper into the details. For example, I love hexagon shelves because they're unique, but make sense.
You get the idea.
So what is your "home" like now? Is it time to throw some things out? Organize, dust, or knock down cobwebs? Change things up a bit?
I hope this analogy helps you as much as it has helped me. Sometimes, all it takes to make the next move is understand where your head is at.