My little brother, Eli, is six years old. If I remember correctly, his first words were "Mom", "Dad", and "shut up". Kids always think "shut up" is the s-word until they get a little older, but Eli's the youngest in the family, my other siblings are teenagers - "shut up" is everyday language to him. He's a funny kid, very bright, thoughtful and creative. But trust me, there's no fooling around with that tough little guy and you definitely don't want to be on his bad side. I don't care who you are. He's not afraid of anyone. (He watches Kung-Fu Panda so you better watch out. The kid's got some moves.)
Eli always knows what he wants and exactly how he wants it. If something's in his way, he'll probably tell it to shut up. Don't get me wrong, he's a good kid and very respectful. But before he respects you, he needs to know why he should. You need to prove yourself first. I promise, once you gain his respect, he will love you and do almost anything for you. He just doesn't want to waste time respecting things that aren't worth respecting. He doesn't have time to give attention to things unworthy of giving attention. He's got shows to watch, games to play, and a lot of talking to do.
We all have issues in our lives that don't need to be there. Distractions, toxic relationships, temptations - whatever it may be. The best advice I can give to you is to have goals. Know what your goals are and figure out how to reach them. Anything that gets in the way, tell it to shut up. Those voices in your head saying you're not good enough? Shut up. Those constant useless distractions? Shut up. That one friend that tries to bring you down? Yeah, shut the hell up.
It's okay to respect yourself. I shouldn't have to say you can respect yourself and be mindful of others at the same time - that should be a given. I think you can have an ego without having self-respect. I also think you can be mindful of others and be a pushover. It's all about finding the right balance, neither of those options are healthy.
What do you value most in life? What are your priorities? Who do you strive to be? Be daring and don't be afraid to take risks. Remember that you're valuable and your time is valuable too. You have things to do, people to meet, places to see. There's no time for respecting what's unworthy of your respect.
Tell it to shut up.