Life, Glamor, and Process

If life was only about glamor, we’d all be dead. Since we’re not dead, that’s proof life gets its purpose from elsewhere. It might be a stupid analogy but it can apply to anything - not just glamor. Life isn’t about happiness, it’s not about money, life’s not about (you fill in the blank). So then, life must be about life, right?

Don’t get me wrong, I love people. People are great and I’m not saying you can’t be glamorous. I’m definitely not saying we should all be dead. But personally, I’m tired of everyone acting like life is only about glamor. Whether it be ourselves, our houses, jobs - it doesn’t matter. Glamor is cool every once in a while and there’s nothing wrong with the desire to be glamorous or living glamorously. I'm only saying that it shouldn't be our main focus in life.

It’s when it’s our main focus that it becomes an issue. Whenever you have a priority, you become competitive about it. When it’s a competition, you start to compare. I’m not just talking to girls here, this is for everyone because I’m talking about a lifestyle. A lifestyle beginning with a flawed mindset that glamor is everything. When I say "glamor" I mean the common concepts of comfort, happiness, and completion. That’s the real issue - people think our lives need to be complete before we can be happy.

Let me tell you that joy in life comes from the pursuit of completion, it’s not a result of being complete. Life is a process, living like it’s a process is what gives you freedom to have joy. You're human. If you were God, then you'd be complete and everything would be good. Since you're a human, you're designed for process, maybe we should start living like that's what life is all about. But if you live like it’s about reaching an end, you’ll find yourself lost to feeling like you have no purpose. (Process gives you purpose.) This is why we see so many celebrities who struggle with depression. If life was about glamor, celebrities should be the happiest people on earth. I think we have a misconception as to what “comfort” means. Comfort isn’t “finished”. It’s about accepting, and enjoying the process of life.